Call me strange but really... I have serious problems with wedding. I rather stay at home and read a good book than attending a wedding ceremony. I am quick to reply with all kinds of excuses whenever I am invited to a wedding. The thought of listening to the infamous Wedding March tune is enough to make my stomach churns and my palms sweat. I must say I am quite successful in avoiding real weddings so far...but it is not easy to avoid those wedding scenes on TV. YES I fear those weddings on TVs too. Whenever I am confronted with one, I would automatically grab the remote with the skill of a ninja and turn to other channels. So you see...I am not really a wedding person.
Ironically I have been together with my boyfriend for five years. Sure enough I start to feel uneasy when people start to ask us when will we get married. I do not fear commitment...it is just that I fear the wedding ceremony itself. I just hate the entire atmosphere...the stares of the guests...the stress of preparing for a wedding..the pressure of the entire wedding vow ritual..the cost of the reception dinner...it is all just absurd to me. Why go through all the difficulties of telling everyone that you are committed to love someone?
So what kind of wedding is ideal for me? First and foremost I only want between 50-80 guests.Just close friends and close family members is enough for me. Unfortunately family have the habit of inviting well over 200 guests for weddings but I wont let that happen in mine. Moreover, I prefer not to have my wedding in a close setting like a church. I rather have my wedding in a garden or beach, or anywhere close to nature itself. It will give me some space to breathe and relax. Finally, I would like to have just a simple wedding dress. No 30 meters train or Victorian skirt. I dont want to look like a Bridzilla on my wedding day feeling all uncomfortable and ugly. And if possible, I do not want to hear the Wedding March tune...it is just the worst composition of music I ever known in my entire life. Tall order for someone who really fears weddings eh?
I am hoping I could cope with this whole phobia of weddings soon. I'd love to come to my friend's wedding and just enjoy the day. Any tips on overcoming my fear?
Confession : I have phobia of weddings edited
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Sounds like a good plan to me, Dar! We'll get the DJ to play some techno music when you walk down the aisle yea? But I'd caution the DJ against playing anything with Justin Bieber on. If not, the Bridzilla within you may unleash itself. LOLL
I was never a bride's maid nor have I attended any formal church wedding (not that I recall of). The traditional Chinese wedding ceremonies are rather loud with cheering and shouting as the groom had to get through several "obstacles" before he can meet his bride in the house. LOL
I never been to a Chinese wedding before but it really sounds interesting. Perhaps I could experience one when you get married in the future Alyssa :D
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